لا تصف المرأة امرأة أخرى لزوجها

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

لا تصف المرأة امرأة أخرى لزوجها

قال البخاري – رحمه الله تعالى – (9/ 338 ) : حدثنا محمد بن يوسف، حدثنا سفيان، عن منصور، عن أبي وائل، عن عبدالله بن مسعود – رضي الله عنه – قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: ” لا تباشر المرأة المرأة؛ فتنعتها لزوجها كأنه ينظر إليها “.
لا تباشر: قال الطيب في شرح ” مشكاة المصابيح “:

البشرة: ظاهر جلد الإنسان

والمباشرة: الملامسة، وأصله من لمس البشرة البشرة

والمعنى به في هذا الحديث النظر مع اللمس

فينظر ظاهرها من الوجه والكفين

ويحس باطنها باللمس

ويقف على نعومتها وسمنها. اهـ

قال القابسي: هذا أصل لمالك في سد الذرائع فإن الحكمة من النهي خشية أن يُعجِب الزوج الوصف المذكور، فيفضي ذلك إلى تطليق الواصفة أو الافتتان بالموصوفة. مرجع كلام القابسي ” الفتح ” (9/338)

اقتطفته من كتاب
نصيحتي للنساء – لأم عبدالله بنت الشيخ مقبل بن هادي الوادعي – ص: 184

..wife of Shaykh Al-Albaanee

A conversation with Shaikh al-Albaanee’s wife, Umm al-Fadl

pdf file: a-conversation-with-umm-al-fadl

From the Manners of a Wife with her Husband

It is reported that the wife of Imâm Sa’îd b. Al-Musayyib – Allâh have mercy on him – said:

“We only ever used to speak to our husbands like you address your commanders and leaders: [we would supplicate for them when talking to them] “May Allâh keep you right!”, “May Allâh keep you well!”

Abû Nu’aym, Hilyatu Al-Awliyâ` 5:198.

After the death of his wife Umm Sâlih, Imâm Ahmad – Allâh have mercy on them, used to praise her. He once said:

“In the thirty years she was with me, we never had a single word of disagreement.”

Al-Khatîb Al-Baghdâdî, Târîkh Baghdâd 16:626.

“The noble woman prefers..”

Ibn ul-Qayyim (rahimahullaah):

“The noble woman prefers hunger rather than immorality. Resort to no one but your Lord, for resorting to others is a disgrace.”

Al-Fawaa’id, p77.

Who shall he Marry?

Who shall he Marry?

http://daragharbi.com/2011/04/07/who-shall-he-marry

Advice to sisters

Advice to the sisters

Shaykh Maher Ibn Dhafer al-Qahtani

http://www.4shared.com/dir/NiY2oYJI/Shaykh_Mahir_-_Advice_to_the_S.html

❤ Advice from Umm Salamah

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الحمد الله ربَّ العالمين، وصلى الله وسلم على نبيه محمد و على آله وسلم تسليمًا كثيرًا مزيدًا.
أما بعد

Advice From Umm Salamah’

To the Sisters Who Give Da’wah in the West

Awake my beloved for the promised time draws nigh … قم ياحبيبي قد دنا الموعد

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

كانت امرأة أبي محمد حبيب الفارسي تقول له بالليل: ( قد ذهب الليل وبين أيدينا طريق بعيد، وزادنا قليل، وقوافل الصالحين قد سارت قدامنا، ونحن قد بقينا ).

يا نائماً بالليل كم ترقد *** قم ياحبيبي قد دنا الموعد

وخُذ من الليل وأوقاته *** ورِداً إذا ما هجع الرّقد

من نام حتى ينقضي ليله *** ثم يبلغ المنزل أو يجهد

The wife of Habib- Abu Muhammad al Farisi- would wake him at night time and say,

‘Awake O Habib for the path is long and our provision is paltry.
The caravan of the righteous has passed ahead of us and we have been left behind!’

O sleeper by night for how long will you lie?
Awake my beloved for the promised time draws nigh.
For a portion of the night your Lord deify-
For sleep begets neither rest nor equanimity.
Whoever in slumber deep spends the night,
will not have striven or arrived at the destination right”

• Transcribed from ‘The journey to Allaah’ (pg.59) By Imaam ibn Rajab al Hanbali Rahimahullaah

“Women seeking Knowledge‏” – Shaykhah Umm Salamah bint ‘Alee asSalafiyyah

Supporting the Rights of the Believing Women

Chapter: Women Seeking Knowledge

Only one of these many proofs is sufficient for the ruling that the following statement is false: “Reading and writing are not for women, they are for us. And for them from us is that they are the origin of impurity.”

It is also false when someone says that it is an innovation that women seek knowledge in the masaajid. Rather, I am amazed that the one who says this would prevent his wife from going to the Houses of Allaah to seek knowledge yet at the same time he allows her to go from house to house and from shop to shop!

The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “Do not prevent the slaves of Allaah from the Houses of Allaah.” – Al Hadeeth

So, which proof establishes this ignorant person’s claim that it is an innovation for the women to seek knowledge in the masaajid, when its allowance in the Houses of Allaah is known?

Our scholars, the scholars of Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jamaa’ah, and we do not like that the masaajid are free from study circles and that they are instead established in the houses. We do not get the reward of knowledge and teaching except in the masaajid. This is for both the men and women, and whoever wishes to make a division between them, then he must present his proof and we seek aid in Allaah.

We ask Allaah, the Greatest, to establish us firmly in our religion and that He uses us to benefit Islaam and the Muslimoon.Verily He is the Guardian and Able to do that.

• Umm Salamah bint ‘Alee as Salafiyyah (Student & widow of Shaykh Muqbil Ibn Haadee al Waadi’ee Rahimahullaah )Supporting the Rights of the Believing Women – Chapter: Women Seeking Knowledge – Excerpt from Pages 175 – 176

Important clarification

Shaykh Al-Albani said (Al-Sahihah hadith 2680):

“As for what has become widespread lately here in Damascus where the women frequent the mosques at particular times to listen to a class given by one of them, from those they call ‘callers’ (dâ’iyah) – they claim, then this is from the innovated matters not done in the time of the Prophet – Allah’s praise and peace be upon him – nor during the time of the Righteous Predecessors. Rather, what was known and practised then was the righteous scholars would take the responsibility of teaching [women] in a specified place – as in this hadith, or in the men’s classes with the women sitting in a separate place if possible, otherwise the men would prevail and the women would not be able to learn or ask.

If women are found today who have some knowledge and sound fiqh, taken from the Book and Sunnah, then there is no harm in having a private gathering in her house or the house of one of the other women. This is better for them, and how can it not be so when the Prophet – Allah’s praise and peace be upon him – said about Congregational prayers in the masjid, “And [the women’s] houses are better for them,’? If this is the case regarding prayers, during which the Muslim woman has to adhere to a level of etiquette and modesty that she doesn’t outside of prayer, then how can knowledge in the houses not be more proper? Especially since some of them raise their voices, and other women might take part in the talk, so they will make an ugly and blameworthy din in the masjid. This is what we have heard and witnessed, regrettably. Then, I saw this invention spread to other lands, like Amman. We ask Allah to save us from every innovation (bid’ah muhdathah).”

Women and Da’wah – Shaykhuna Al-albaanee raheemahullaah

Women and Da’wah
By Imaam Muhammad Naasirud-Deen al-Albaanee

An explanation the conditions needed for women to be involved in the field of  da’wah.
This is one of the innovations of modern times and it is not specific to women alone.

Question:
What is the best way for women to give da’awah?

Answer:
I say to the women to stay in your homes, and you should not concern yourselves with the da’awah. I rebuke the usage of the word ‘ad-Da’awah’, especially by the male youth who say, ‘those are from the people of the Da’awah’, as if ‘da’awah’ has become the fashion of the modern times. So now every person who has a little knowledge becomes a daa’iyah (caller). So the matter did not stop with the male youth, until it carried to the female youth and to the housewives, until they abandoned the obligations they have towards their houses and their husbands and their children. They turned away from the obligatory things to that which is not obligatory upon them, like giving da’awah. The general rule for the woman is to stay in her home as has been legislated for her, and not to go out except for a dire need. This is because of the statement of the Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam):

“…and their houses are better for them.”

As opposed to praying in the Mosque. Nowadays, we see a widespread fad between the women that they frequent the mosques for the congregational prayers in addition to the Friday prayer. However, their houses are better for them, except if there is a mosque near them and the imaam is a scholar and he teaches the attendees some knowledge. Then, the women may go out for prayer in the mosque, to listen to the knowledge; there is nothing to prevent them from that. As for the woman excessively involved in da’awah, let her stay in her home and read from the books provided for her by her husband, or her brother, or her mahaarim (close male relatives whom she is not allowed to marry). Then, there is nothing to prevent her from taking a day where she call some of the women to come to her house, or that she goes out herself to attend in them home of a woman to share religious knowledge. So that is better than a group of women going to her.

As for that she embarks on a journey, and it could be that she travels without a mahram, then what is claimed is that she went out for da’awah. This is one of the innovations of modern times and it is not specific to women alone. Even some of the male youth excessively talk about da’awah, and yet they have very little knowledge.

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